"I began seeing Nicki professionally in January 2019. Ā Initially, my primary goal was to better communicate about sex and to expand my sexual horizon.
I had just turned 49 years old when I began seeing Nicki and until my conversations with her, I had never openly and candidly discussed my sex life and sexual related topics.Ā
Although initially apprehensive, Ā Nicki's sex positive personality, listening ability, knowledge and experience made it easy for me to open up during our sessions. Ā It felt really good, liberating and empowering to be able to share, for the first time, the most intimate of details and receive sound and caring feedback and advice. Ā Under Nicki's care, I have become a much better communicator and have released sexuality related mental blocks. Ā I am happy to state that my relationships have benefited. Ā Thank you Coach!"
-Earl Z.
Red Jasper is not like any other community I have been a part of.Ā
There is a focus on slowing down and truly connecting to each other, everyone brings their authentic self to this space, and it has created a truly nourishing and joyful community culture that has become a great source of support, inspiration, connection, and learning in my life.Ā
Nicki's heart and passion for all that she does pours into everything that we do together, and has made this space feel so safe, supportive, and just plain juicy ā¤ļøĀ
Every meeting leaves me grateful for the connections I am making here, and brings an insight, learning, or laugh to my day šĀ
Soooo very grateful for this space where I can learn skills to connect to my body, to communicate better, to grow, to express my full self, and to continually be inspired by everyone in the Red Jasper family! ā¤ļø
-Ketsia E.
These questions get you thinking and contemplating, propelling you forward on your journey in a way that is totally on your schedule.
Pre-recorded. Again, you get to participate on your clock. Some examples include: Ā Health & Wellness Routines, Spiritual Rituals, Getting Outside, Guidance from Cards, Fun Readings, Meditations, Movement Practices, Ā Solo Date Night Missions, Healthy Recipes, Inspirations, we are always dreaming up new and exciting adventures for YOU!
You get an inside glimpse of other members lives via an article and photos all about them! Seeing others in their day to day lives helps us to feel connected and like we are not alone. Ā (DM us if you would like to be featured!)
Currently twice per month, all events will be recorded and replays will be available soon after.Ā
See Examples of our Live Gatherings Below! šš¼
(Plus! Watch for fun unexpected posts from us about our daily lives and asking you about yours!)
(Plus! Watch for fun unexpected posts from us about our daily lives and asking you about yours!)
These questions get you thinking, contemplating, and integrating; propelling you forward on your journey in a way that is totally on your schedule.
This is not about pleasure grasping and hoarding for good feelings, highs, and instant gratification in the short term. This is about pleasure exploring and fulfillment for satisfaction, happiness, and contentment in the long term.
-Nicki Snow, from my upcoming book
"Nicki has spent many years developing her understanding of sexuality, sheās a master and it shows. She understands the physical aspect but also the mental side. In her Challenge, in which I recently participated, she skillfully used personal inventories and body practices to help us see our patterns and how to break free of them. In short and concise videos that were both entertaining and informative she helped us all to stay on course and create a vision of who we want to be."
Ā -Kevin P.
I had a client who had been in a strained relationship for 5 Ā years. She had no idea how to communicate her needs and wants to her partner. Ā She didnāt even really know what her needs and wants were, and she definitely didnāt know what her routes to arousal were. She had no real education around sex or intimacy, except for a few books and some porn, and was very discouraged.
Even basic communication was difficult with her partner, and she found herself being angry and resentful, Ā often resulting Ā in fits of rage and fights. She felt lonely, misunderstood, and frustrated; Ā she was scared that her relationship would never be truly satisfying and that she might be stuck in it forever, living Ā an unfulfilling life.
Then, she met me at a mutual friend's house. She immediately wanted to sign up for some 1:1 sessions, she came to one of my nature and wilderness retreats, committed to a 6 month mentorship, and then maintenance sessions after that.Ā
During our time working together, she said it was one of the first times where she really felt heard, seen, and accepted. We worked on calming her nervous system through Accelerated Evolution processes so that she was able to approach her relationship and partner from a place of calm grounded-ness.Ā
She learned how to communicate effectively so that she did feel heard and seen by her partner, Ā as well as being able to hear and see her partner. She is now able to manage her emotions, her words, and her actions even in high emotion circumstances.
We worked on her understanding her routes to arousal through virtual sessions and several in-person Immersions. She learned what really brings her pleasure and joy in her body, not her mind. We built a pleasure practice and an arousal practice for her.
Now, she knows how to meet her own needs through solo practices, as well as being able to effectively communicate her needs and wants to her partner. She learned what true consent feels like in her body, and learned to negotiate those needs, wants, and Ā boundaries within partnered practices.
She now feels empowered by her abilities and skills, and she has an authentic connection to herself and her partner. They continue to grow together in love, their relationship, and their eroticism. She is enjoying a fully satisfying healthy relationship and life!
"I had the good fortune of working with Nicki when multiple challenges were getting me down. I was very comfortable with her, she was highly relatable and in the end led me to a place where I was comfortable overcoming my obstacles. She helped me get myself out of my way. Thanks Nicki!"
Erik H., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
"I am an Erotic Blueprintsā¢ Coach and I came to it after healing my own sex life with my partner of 16 years.Ā
I have also been a massage therapist for 35 years. I am a dancer. I like modern, hip hop, and contact improv. I am also a pole artist and recently took a burlesque class.
I just moved to Washington State and my body feels calm and relaxed among the landscape of tall green trees and ocean views. I have lived in all the 4 directions:Ā
North - Washington State
South - Austin, TXEast - Washington D.C
West - California
I like to cook delicious food from the farmerās market and I have been to many farmerās markets all over the country.
Something else about me is that I can play the ukulele.
I met Nicki while taking a certification from an incredible Kink master Orpheus Black. I look forward to meeting you!"
-Beth Adrienne
Great question! This is a time to be honest with yourself and ask these questions:Ā
If the answer to any of these questions is āyesā, I invite you to contemplate all the ways you might be able to solve these issues and then consider what the most efficient, effective way might be.Ā
*** Successful people in any walks of life recognize the importance of having mentors, teachers and coaches on board to help them both fulfill, and maximize, their true potential. We were put on this Earth to walk this path together.
While we can appreciate the hesitancy in investing money in yourself and your sex life, we ask you to seriously contemplate or journal about how much money you spend on things that do not help you to have the health, authentic relationships, sex life, and intimacy you truly want in your life.Ā
Ask yourself:Ā
Then ask yourself how much any of the above stuff has contributed to your overall well being, health, happiness, stellar sex life, and intimate, authentic relationship?Ā
If you have spent over $40 as a single, or over $80 as a couple per month on a combination of any of the above, ask yourself this question:Ā
Ā If you participate in the community and do the work, I guarantee that you will indeed see and feel the changes you are wanting to make.
Yes!Ā
We are trauma informed, and can help many people who have experienced trauma, but we are not trauma therapists. Ā If you, or we, feel like you would benefit from a trauma therapist, you are welcome to work with your own trauma therapist if you already have one, in conjunction with this work. Also, we do have wonderful trauma therapists that we can refer you to and who you can work with, in conjunction with our community and offerings at any time.
Great question and we appreciate you asking it!Ā
We acknowledge that these things do exist in our world, and it is one of the reasons we do the work that we do.Ā
Two of our core values are Integrity and Impact. What that means to us, is that we are always striving to make an impact on our community members/clients/students and their individual lives, and thus the world at largeābut only with absolute integrity and provided always that it serves the highest good of all.Ā
We adhere to the highest code of ethics, which EXCLUDES having sexual relationships or being a surrogate with clients/students. We are here to teach you how to get your own needs met. We will not meet them for you.
We also acknowledge that we are in a position of power with our clients/students, and as such, we also want to empower you with choice and the skills to negotiate consent conversations and everything in your life. We do not want you to please us.Ā
You always have the freedom to take what resonates with you and leave the rest behind. We aim to help you push towards your edges, resulting in real growth and change, but not go over your edges into overwhelm or trauma. Your ānoā is equally as valuable as your āyesā. You always have the freedom to choose what is best for you.
No.Ā
I am an educator and guide and helps you learn how to get your needs met with yourself and/or with a partner.
I do not act as a surrogate partner. I will not meet your needs for you. I remain clothed during all video and in-person sessions. I will not become romantically or sexually involved with a community member.
No.
You can absolutely do this work yourself! Ā Only one person in a relationship needs to do this work in order to shift the relationship. Ā Once you start, your partner will notice that something is different about you... guaranteed!Ā
No. And! They can join us as your partner with a 50% discount! Ā We are happy to extend this half-off discount to any partner, family member, or friend that you would like to join with you.
Though we can't stop you from sharing your account with your partner, we ask that you each have your own account for the integrity of the community and for the integrity of your own individual journey.
"If I could describe my experience with Nicki's courses, in one word, I would use "enlightening". It was as if I had weight lifted. I'll explain further.
At 42, I felt in a bit of a rut. My life is by no means uncomfortable, but there were parts of it that had grown stagnant and ultimately a disappointment that bears weight on my overall happiness. Ruts are due to cycles and I felt I needed some sort perspective change to break my same old loop.Ā
I stumbled upon Nicki's offering and it grabbed my attention. The commitment of growth and opening up to others is slightly intimidating to me. I decided to put that intimidation on the back burner and take the course. Palms sweaty, and my heart racing, I showed up for a better me.Ā
Very quickly I felt those nerves reside. Nicki set up a "safe container" that made me feel comfortable and open to personal expansion. The classes always left me feeling more centered and better prepared to absorb life's experiences and challenges. These classes built up and started to spill into my out of class mentality. I found myself much more conscious of my emotions, who I am and my personal needs.Ā
So far, I have benefited greatly in everyday communication skills, personal intimacy, confidence and overall happiness. The tools Nicki gave me are installed for the rest of my lifetime. This is an ongoing work. Today I feel like I walk taller, my footsteps feel lighter and my energy level has come up. I'm excited for tomorrow's teachings as well.Ā
There is no "fix it all right now" program. These habit changes require hard work and commitment. I feel like Nicki has a remarkable ability to lead us to find our own commitment fire for change. I'm about a year into this commitment of change for a better, happier me. I'm excited to continue on with my commitment as my fire burns hot for it. I highly suggest this community for anyone looking to increase your happiness through intimacy with yourself and others."Ā
-Ben V.
A big thanks and gratitude goes out to Great Spirit the Source of all Creation, all of my Guides, Muses, Ancestors, and Allies for bringing me to this moment in time and space, and for giving me the courage to stand for the wisdom of what I have learned and experienced in my life.Ā
I am so grateful to all my mentors and those who have walked this path before me, as well as the supportive communities I am a part of.
I am especially thankful to my partner Ryan and all of you who support me in the work that I do, I couldn't do it without you. For realz. ā¤ļø
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